Everyone needs a purpose in life.
The older I get, and the more I experience new life (like the birth of my first grandchild), and the deaths of those I love (like the recent loss of my brother), the more I ponder my life’s purpose…. the legacy I might leave behind… how people will remember me.
When I started this blog two and a half years ago on May 18, 2014 – just for fun and on the encouragement of my BFF’s daughter (my McHendy daughter, Jackie), I wasn’t sure what I was doing or what to expect. I think I secretly thought I might be the next Ree Drummond or Rachel Ray and get rich and famous. It was all about me.
But after posting daily for almost 1,000 days, it’s become something very different. It hasn’t brought me the kind of fame or fortune I clandestinely fantasized about in the beginning. But what it has become – is a purpose… a personal mission of sorts… a small way of giving to the world… a place to encourage (and maybe even inspire) people to embrace the simple moments of life to cherish… especially those “in between” moments.
I have a very fulfilling career and full-time job I love that keeps me busy as the Director of Strategic Projects and Office of the CEO for a hospice and home health company. I have a husband of almost 35 years, two grown sons, an amazing daughter-in-law and another soon-to-be, and a baby granddaugher that bring such joy to my life (and of course there is also Charlie!). I have the most amazing BFFs a “girl” could ask for.
Yet, I still believe I need to have something that is my personal legacy, and that is what my blog has grown to be for me. When I consider my few talents and gifts, I have often been told my greatest is that of an “encourager” or “influencer.” I’ve taken many a DISC Personality Asssessment, and I am always an out-and-out straight High “I.” I have taken “Spiritual Gift Assessments” that tell me I have the gift of “exhortation” or encouragement. Hubby tells me I have the gift of “gab!” So why not use that gift – one that comes so easily to me – to benefit others?
I have never had difficulty talking with strangers. My goal in any situation, whether it be greeting the receptionist at an office, the UPS delivery person, the garbage collector, or a less-than-happy cashier at the grocery store, is to leave them smiling. Not sure why it is important to me – but it is.
And that is my goal here too. The goal of this blog is not to “show off” what I have or what I can do or to make you think my life is all peachy and perfect. My life is not perfect. That is not what I want people to think. In fact, my life is far from perfect… like all of ours are! I have an estranged relationship with my mother, I was separated from my birth father for 39 years until six and a half years ago, my brother struggled so severely with alcoholism that he took his own life by stepping in front of a train… I struggle with my weight and have always been “chubby,” I’m not particularly attractive, I have no musical talent whatsoever…. the list could go on. I tell you this not for pity or sympathy or for you to disagree. I tell you this so that it might allow you to know that despite life’s challenges and adversity, we can still seek to find the joy. We can still be kind. We can still feel love. There are still many, many moments to cherish… And we must seek them, and we must appreciate them.
So no matter how busy my day, and knowing there is no monetary or fame reward or prize to be given for posting every day, I still make sure I do. I spend a bit of time, often late at night, writing a post that might encourage you, that might make you smile, that might inspire you to bake or cook something new or paint something, or just look at something differently. It might be a few words that will remind you of something that makes you happy. Sometimes I am typing it at 11 pm with only one eye open. Other times I get ahead by four or five posts and give myself a break. But I still make it a personal goal to post something everyday (that appears at 6am EST) for my dear followers to either start their day (if they are living in my part of the world) or end their day (for my cherished blog follower friends in Latvia or Ireland or Australia or Japan).
So even on my toughest days, I seek to find something good and encouraging, because in encouraging you, I am rewarded in an even more profound way than could be achieved with fame or fortune. I feel my life has a personal purpose. I feel I am giving something of value to the world. I feel I might be remembered… for being kind. I might be creating my legacy.
Do you think about your life’s purpose? Your legacy? What you will be remembered for?
None of us know when our last year or day or breath will be, so my simple message is: Cherish the Moments!
Cheers & Hugs,